Today I turn 42. I am actually loving my 40’s. I have never been fitter or healthier. I have never had so much uncertainty in my life but felt so at peace with it. I have never trusted in the now taking care of the future as much as I do now. It’s good.
And yes, the fact that 42 is the answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe and everything according to The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy has not passed unnoticed.
I am here because I have learnt so much.
- When I was 1 I learnt my brother was smarter than me. He would take me out of my playpen and climb in with his LEGO and leave me to freely wander. My mum learned to get two playpens.
- When I was 2 I learnt that my mum was scared of graveyards because we would have to run past every single one. We lived across the road from one. We ran a lot that year.
- When I was 3 I learnt that being the youngest cousin meant the eldest cousin hated you because he had to hold you in every photo, babysit you at every playground and double dink you on the bike.
- When I was 4 I learnt that if you said you were going to kiss one of the boys at pre-school people would line up to watch. That’s when I discovered my knack for event management.
- When I was 5 I learnt that skipping on a rug in front of an episode of Romper Room meant that you will split your lip open on the channel button.
- When I was 6 I learnt that library bag fights got you into trouble.
- When I was 7 I learnt that you should invite the girl who moves in across the road to play handball with you: 30 years and counting for our friendship now.
- When I was 8 I learnt that I had had a growth spurt after I got stuck in the dirty linen basket during a game of hide and seek.
- When I was 9 I learnt that opening a can of Two Fruits will slice the top of your finger off.
- When I was 10 I learnt that I could play softball and became a regional rep with Mrs Woog which lasted one season. We also learnt girls who play softball were a little bigger and tougher than us, and that purple knickerbockers were not our pant of choice.
- When I was 11 I learnt that if you volunteered to take the trophies for the end of year school presentation across the road to the function centre, you could write down the winners and ask people to pay you for that information when you returned to the schoolyard.
- When I was 12 I learnt that boys thought throwing you in the urinal meant that they liked you.
- When I was 13 I learnt that what you wore to the Blue Light Disco was more important than the mark you got in English.
- When I was 14 I learnt that single sex classes just made the girls bitchier and the boys hornier.
- When I was 15 I learnt that you think green taffetta and big hair is high fashion.
- When I was 16 I learnt the principle of out-sourcing when Dad declared he wasn’t teaching me to drive.
- When I was 17 I learnt that what you got in your English mark was more important that what you wore to your Year 12 formal.
- When I was 18 I learnt that the uni bar was open during lecture hours.
- When I was 19 I learnt that I wasn’t very good at assignment deadlines.
- When I was 20 I learnt that jeans, RM’s, Country Road shorts, plaited belts, pearl necklaces and earrings or fob chains were the clothes of choice at uni and that a ute-driving country boyfriend with a massive bullbar (not a euphenism) were the accessory of choice.
- When I was 21 I learnt that my parents were going their separate ways.
- When I was 22 I learnt that living overseas was the only way I could cope with it.
- When I was 23 I learnt that all Scottish men don’t look like Mel Gibson in Braveheart. Throw a rock in Edinburgh and hit a Begbie lookalike.
- When I was 24 I learnt that the crew cabins on the QE2 were NOTHING like the passenger cabins.
- When I was 25 I learnt that Russian acrobatic pirates were not marriage material.
- When I was 26 I learnt that my family needed me and it was time to go home.
- When I was 27 I learnt that tiger print floor length coats and black leather pants were not an investment purchase.
- When I was 28 I learnt that you shouldn’t get excited with the real estate agent and accidentally offer $100,000 over market value when you bid on your first property.
- When I was 29 I learnt that the man who was under my nose at work for the last four years would put a ring on it.
- When I was 30 I learnt that our Double Income No Kids lifestyle was the wealthiest place I would be for many years to come!! I wish I had appreciated that and the ability to sleep-in a little more 😉
- When I was 31 I learnt that by resigning from a company because you knew your job wasn’t the right fit for you means you get offered a better, higher paid job in that company.
- When I was 32 I learnt that the M2 and I had a precarious relationship which culminated in a break up and a rental property in the Inner West.
- When I was 33 I learnt that in one year you can get engaged, adopt a kitten, get married, move interstate and fall pregnant. I also learnt weddings were expensive, but sooooooo worth it.
- When I was 34 I learnt that it was Adam and I versus the world when we discovered the business ethics (or lack thereof) of the people Adam took a business over from. I also learnt that people like that don’t matter because we had our first son.
- When I was 35 I learnt that I had missed my calling and perhaps had a career in wrestling considering the grip I put on the midwife when she went to turn the epidural down BEFORE the 4 kilos plus of our second son had come out of you-know-where.
- When I was 36 I learnt that starting my own business and having two children is the hardest yet most fulfilling thing I have ever done.
- When I was 37 I learnt that I have never worked so hard and been paid so little but have never been loved so much.
- When I was 38 I learnt that being on a preschool management committee was not a ceremonial position.
- When I was 39 I learnt that taking your eye off the ball meant that it will smack you in the face.
- When I was 40 I learnt that the angels will catch you when you step off the cliff into your life purpose.
- When I was 41 I learnt that having two kids at school gave you 20 hours a week and your sanity back.
And now I am 42.
And I sit quietly.
I listen to the wind and I dance like a feather, being totally okay with where the wind takes me knowing that I will land softly in the right place. At the right time. When I am ready.
The universe and my mates have my back.
I have learnt that is all I need to know.